Having officiated at several weddings, I have realized there are few verses more helpful to couples than the passage in Ephesians 5. The bottom line–Submit to God and to one another. Marriage is an amazing and mystical covenant that transforms 2 perfectly good human beings into one. But, to accomplish such a miracle, both need to submit to God and each other. The world would have it go the other way–no submission. Equal rights and self-protection are pillars of the current world view.
That is why God calls us to be different. If we continue to live differently according to God’s will, then we replace the world’s illusion of independence with God’s gift of freedom. Marriage is God’s picture of his desire for the covenant he has with us. In every relationship based upon love, the desire is to see the one we love freed from anything that would entrap or entangle them. God says–to be free in marriage, don’t take the throne, take the knee. Be great–by submitting and sacrificing for each other. As you seek to promote one another, two perfectly good human beings transform into one awesome married couple. One awesome married couple is the best picture of all the attributes of God wrapped into one. That is why when you are with a couple that lives a life of mutual submission, you never want to leave.
God Bless You
21 Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.
22 Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. 24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.
25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her 26 to make her holy, cleansing[b] her by the washing with water through the word, 27 and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. 28 In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself.