Haman, unlike the King had no capacity for love or grace. He loved only one—Haman. So while he was unable to model love for those around him, he was able to clearly demonstrate hatred and its effects. Haman hated Mordecai and all that he represented. It was so passionate of a hatred that seeing Mordecai actually changed his countenance. Haman was a man that had everything—but, was so enslaved by hate that he was inconsolable as long as the object of his hatred still lived. Hatred consistently enslaves, endangers and undermines the very source—Not the object.
When we hate—it brings out the selfish parts of our lives and attitudes. We cannot be happy for ourselves or others because what we hate is all that matters. Our joys are not joyful, our successes are not satisfying. All things lose their taste, aroma and beauty due to the overwhelming impact hate has on us. What is worse, we become so entrapped that it causes us to say and do things that are dangerous and perilous. We say and do things to others that fall outside the realm of decency and humanity. Those words and acts become the basis of life changing backlash and often end violently and tragically.
Finally Hate undermines the very purpose it is intended. People lose their identity and independence to prove to the object of their malice their true disdain. But, often the hater is the only one affected in any meaningful way. Those who are hated often have no idea and usually have no concern that someone is bitter. Oblivious, they continue to enjoy their lives while the Hater is destroyed. We can never allow ourselves to be controlled by hate. God says Love your enemies—then you will enjoy the same freedom that love always provides. If you are bitter, let it go!!!!!
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9 Haman went out that day happy and in high spirits. But when he saw Mordecai at the king’s gate and observed that he neither rose nor showed fear in his presence, he was filled with rage against Mordecai. 10 Nevertheless, Haman restrained himself and went home.
Calling together his friends and Zeresh, his wife, 11 Haman boasted to them about his vast wealth, his many sons, and all the ways the king had honored him and how he had elevated him above the other nobles and officials. 12 “And that’s not all,” Haman added. “I’m the only person Queen Esther invited to accompany the king to the banquet she gave. And she has invited me along with the king tomorrow. 13 But all this gives me no satisfaction as long as I see that Jew Mordecai sitting at the king’s gate.”
14 His wife Zeresh and all his friends said to him, “Have a pole set up, reaching to a height of fifty cubits,[a] and ask the king in the morning to have Mordecai impaled on it. Then go with the king to the banquet and enjoy yourself.” This suggestion delighted Haman, and he had the pole set up.